Blogs & Birth Stories
A collection of inspiring birth stories from past students and insightful blogs written by Tracey.
Parenting
Holding big feelings for ourselves as parents
by Tracey Anderson Askew | Sep 19, 2024 | Birth, Early Parenting, Parenting, Personal Development
How do you do feelings? Especially big ones? Do you fly off the handle, or shut
down?
Do you ring a friend and blurt it all out or write about it? Do you pretend it isn’t
challenging, and when your partner asks how you are – you say, “fine!”
You probably do all these things, I know I do. So how can we hold big feelings for our
children when we can’t always do it for ourselves?
Reflections on a 30-year-old marriage
by Tracey Anderson Askew | Mar 29, 2024 | Birth, Early Parenting, Parenting, Personal Development
Is our job to make our children happy?
How often do we hear the words – “I just want them to be happy?”
What happens when we continually are trying to make our children happy?
Is this the right goal in parenting?
Happy Kids? Is it our job?
by Tracey Anderson Askew | Mar 13, 2024 | Birth, Early Parenting, Parenting, Personal Development
Is our job to make our children happy?
How often do we hear the words – “I just want them to be happy?”
What happens when we continually are trying to make our children happy?
Is this the right goal in parenting?
Parent Grief
by Tracey Anderson Askew | Feb 29, 2024 | Birth, Early Parenting, Parenting, Personal Development
Guilt is not something you get rid of, in fact you wear it always – it’s another way of saying, ‘you
care!’
Learn how to put guilt into your pocket and use it to motivate you to grow and get better.
Parent Guilt
by Tracey Anderson Askew | Feb 22, 2024 | Birth, Early Parenting, Parenting, Personal Development
Guilt is not something you get rid of, in fact you wear it always – it’s another way of saying, ‘you
care!’
Learn how to put guilt into your pocket and use it to motivate you to grow and get better.
How Birth Sets Us Up For Parenting
by Tracey Anderson Askew | Jun 14, 2023 | Birth, Parenting, Personal Development
Does a pregnant woman wake up in the morning, and say to her partner,“Darling, get me a cup of tea - today I am growing an eyeball!” No, she doesn’t – well maybe she asks for a cup of tea 😊 She doesn’t need to set to work to make a baby, her body just does it. Think...
The Issue of Sleep
by Tracey Anderson Askew | Apr 28, 2023 | Parenting
I was living in a block of units, with my new baby. He was a cat napper, waking after only 30 minutes of sleeping. He seemed to be sensitive to sound and so I did my best to make everything quiet, even though I had been told to get my baby used to noise while...
Stress & How it Affects Children
by Tracey Anderson Askew | Nov 9, 2022 | Parenting, Personal Development
"I’m stressed and worried about how it affects my children" We’ve all been there. Overwhelmed by life and its demands. Snappy, impatient at best – yelling like a maniac at worst. Parenting has a way of bringing out the best and the worst in us. That’s the deal ok, so...
The Ingredients of a Rich Childhood
by Tracey Anderson Askew | Sep 28, 2022 | Parenting
Mealtimes as a sacred time Mealtimes can be a sacred family tradition, and a time to catch up with everyone after a busy day. Even with babies, having meals at the table is a moment of role modelling of what it is to be a family, and the importance of good food for...
Getting Enough Sleep With Babies & Young Children
by Tracey Anderson Askew | Sep 28, 2022 | Early Parenting, Parenting
Out of all the many sessions we run at Transform Parenting, sleep sessions are by far the most popular. It seems to be the biggest challenge and involves some soul searching, as there are many marketing ‘fix it,’ remedies to be the solution to your problem of sleep....
Installing Healthy Habits Into Our Children
by Tracey Anderson Askew | Aug 25, 2022 | Parenting
What are habits? Habits are programs of the subconscious. They are automatic responses to our environment. When we enter certain conditions, our minds are triggered into that particular program and bring forth our habits of thought, feelings and behaviours for those...
The Developing Mind, Ours and Our Children
by Tracey Anderson Askew | Aug 11, 2022 | Parenting, Personal Development
I have a deep fascination for children, particularly in how they develop and what can we do to help them reach their full potential. Much of their development starts at the beginning in those foundational years. When survival needs are met through the responsiveness...
Building Children’s Self-Esteem
by Tracey Anderson Askew | Apr 13, 2022 | Parenting
As parents, our job is to help our children cultivate self-esteem. In order to do that, they need to know and become connected to the self. If children are not connected to who they are, they will not develop self-esteem. We live in a world that is quick to teach us...
How Children Learn
by Tracey Anderson Askew | Apr 7, 2022 | Parenting
..and what we need to know as parents Knowing how children learn can ultimately unlock their blueprint of potential. Think of your child, as the seed of a tree. Inside every tree lies a blueprint of creation that is there to guide the growth of that tree. Our...
Parenting as a Spiritual Practice
by Tracey Anderson Askew | Dec 8, 2021 | Parenting
Did you know that we learn to parent, by the way we were parented, at least subconsciously. That may or may not be good news. What is helpful to know, is that our reactive thoughts and feelings come from our subconscious programs. Our job as we grow, is to upgrade the...
It Takes a Village
by Tracey Anderson Askew | Oct 12, 2021 | Parenting
They say it takes a village to raise a child – and yet we don’t often have much of a village these days. Sometimes we need to look outside of our own extended family to create extra support and bring a richness that comes from having many different people as part of...
The Importance of Play for Young Children
by Tracey Anderson Askew | Sep 23, 2021 | Parenting
As an only child of a single mother, I grew up entertaining myself. When mum got home from work, she didn’t have the time or space to entertain me. I knew from an early age that my own fun came from me, and what I could make, create, discover and imagine. If ever I...
Creating Family Rituals
by Tracey Anderson Askew | Sep 2, 2021 | Parenting
My son gazes lovingly into my eyes one night as I put him to bed. This has always been an important time of connection for us. I have sung him his own song since he was a baby. This song signals the words I want to deeply instil within him, that he is loved and he is...
Cultivating Emotional Intelligence
by Tracey Anderson Askew | Jul 13, 2021 | Parenting
It was one of those days where everything felt hard. Getting up was almost human torture, feeling like I must have had a 10-minute sleep, not the 7 hours the clock reported. Getting the boys breakfast was mundane and nerve wracking as every disgusting noise and...
Understanding Your Child
by Tracey Anderson Askew | Jul 15, 2020 | Parenting
I get to coach parents and listen to their stories and I have to declare – loudly from the mountain tops – parenting is a tough gig! The more I work with parents and their struggles, the more I see that the changes that need to happen, need to start within the minds...
Developing Intuition: Parenting as a Creative Act
by Tracey Anderson Askew | Mar 28, 2019 | Parenting
When I became a mum, I was doing my best to get it right, to find the best people, books or experts with all the answers. I thought everything would get easier and I would feel more in control of looking after my baby if I had the right information and applied it at...
Having Another Baby at Age 40
by Tracey Anderson Askew | Nov 5, 2018 | Parenting
Have you ever wished you could go back and have another go at doing something important again? I’m sure every parent feels that way at some stage, where they wish they could go back and do things differently. “I wish I had known this when I was younger.” Common words...